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Lawrence Cohen

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Best Parenting Books & Books on Bullying

It’s every parent’s nightmare: Your child comes home from school and says, “Mom, they’re teasing me,” or, “I don’t have any friends,” or “I don’t want to go to school tomorrow.” Even worse, you may get a phone call informing you that your own child is a bully.

A whole shelf full of books has been published on this subject; here are my picks for the Best of the Best of these. (In the interest of fair play and in order not to be a “Queen Bee,” I will not list my own two books on the subject: “Best Friends Worst Enemies” and “Mom They’re Teasing Me.”)

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Best Parent Help Books on Bullying and Teasing by Lawrence Cohen

The Best You Can Get

  • Hold On to Your Kids

    Lawrence says: This Canadian team of a psychologist and a physician has produced an important book about the importance of parents. That may seem obvious, but the authors argue persuasively that what they call “peer orientation” is becoming a bigger and bigger factor in the lives of children, undermining healthy development and family cohesion. As a bonus, the book contains a chapter on discipline that is the best thing on the subject I’ve ever read.


    • by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté
    • Ballantine Books, 2004
    • Other kids are great for friendships…but children need parents for security, developing strong values, attachment, identity, and a strong sense of right and wrong
  • You Can’t Say You Can’t Play

    Lawrence says: Vivian Paley is a national treasure; her books are vivid pictures of the way that young children think and interact with one another. She is the only educator to win a MacArthur Genius Grant, and this is one of her best and most influential books. She details her efforts in her kindergarten classroom to institute a new guideline: that it isn’t okay to tell another child that she or he can’t play with you. Most importantly, she listens carefully to her students as they react to this idea, instead of just imposing it as an adult rule.


    • by Vivian Paley
    • Adults can - and must - take a stand against children’s inclination to exclude and separate
  • Good Friends are Hard to Find

    Lawrence says: Many parents have told me that this book is like finding a lemonade stand on a blistering hot day - it just hits the spot. The best part is the step-by-step approach to tackling problems such as teasing, bullying, mean friends, stormy relationships, and behavior that drives peers away - breaking down “impossible” situations into manageable steps.


    • by Fred Frankel
    • Perspective Publishing, 1996
    • Help your child find, make, and keep friends
  • I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla

    Lawrence says: Diversity isn’t just a buzzword, it is the reality of our world, and we need all of our children, whatever their race or background, to be able to have a strong identity and an ability to make friends across lines of difference. Marguerite Wright’s book is powerful and eye-opening; though it was written specifically for parents of African American children, it is extremely helpful for all parents who want to think about what it means to live in a world where race is a significant factor in people’s lives.


    • Subtitle: Raising Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race-Conscious World
    • by Marguerite Wright
    • Published in 2000
    • When race, ethnicity, or other differences are factors in friendships, teasing, bullying, or exclusion

You will be happy with any of these

  • Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria

    Lawrence says: A modern classic about the impact of race and ethnicity on school-age young people.


    • Subtitle: A Psychologist Explains the Development of Racial Identity
    • by Beverly Daniel Tatum
    • Published in 2003
  • Peacemaking Among Primates

    Lawrence says: Like it or not, we’re really not all that different from non-human primates when it comes to friendships and conflicts. Frans de Waal is one of the top researchers and writers in this field, and his books shed some fresh insight, from a new angle, on issues of childhood teasing and bullying.


    • by Frans de Waal
  • Bullying at School

    Lawrence says: Dan Olweus is the number one researcher on bullying, both in the US and in Europe, and his findings have given parents and schools the tools they need to acknowledge that there is a serious problem and to begin to find workable solutions.


    • Subtitle: What We Know and What We Can Do (Understanding Children’s Worlds)
    • by Dan Olweus
    • Published in 1998
  • The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun

    Lawrence says: Children with “sensory integration” or “sensory processing” difficulties often have additional challenges in making and keeping friends. Kranowitz literally “wrote the book” about these “out of sync” children, and she continues her work with this volume on having fun and getting along.


    • Subtitle: Activities for Kids with Sensory Processing Disorder
    • by Carol Stock Kranowitz
    • Revised Edition
  • Queen Bees and Wannabees

    Lawrence says: The best of the “mean girl” books.


    • Subtitle: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
    • by Rosalind Wiseman

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